DOMA and Prop 8. Both History.

[LochnarITB]

"off the market for males to date"

This very statement itself suggests they are some sort of a commodity. I don't think you even realize you objectify them in your everyday language.

Do you realize you've made an assumption that demonstrates your own objectification of women?

It is normal for humans to want to pair bond. These particular women do not wish to date males. In this instance, shame does not indicate they have done something wrong. If you look at the definition of shame on Merriam-Webster online you will see "also : something to be regretted : pity <it's a shame you can't go>". Males regret that these women would have no interest in them. You've assumed that "attractive", and even "hot babe", can only express a measure of physical beauty or even the desire to "hit that". I maintain that, for many, those adjectives describe someone intelligent, fun and witty, someone that challenges them.

e.g. I met this attractive hot bade [brilliant, exciting, witty] today but it's a shame [I regret] she has no interest in exploring a relationship because she dates only women.