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It's not even a *shame*, to say it is, is still an implication that they are doing something wrong (even if not "legally" wrong).

That was very tongue-in-cheek, because they're four hot babes in their 20s, off the market for males to date. It's something I kid my friend about and she and I both laugh about it. It was a joke. I hoped that people could see that with the smilies attached. But I forgot that you can't take a joke.

"off the market for males to date"

This very statement itself suggests they are some sort of a commodity. I don't think you even realize you objectify them in your everyday language.

And it hardly matters if you are joking. People tell racist jokes all the time and may not mean anything by it, but they shouldn't be told in the first place. Why doesn't the same logic apply here?

Sorry, but if the person or people I'm mentioning think it's funny when I say it, then someone totally uninvolved like you being offended is irrelevant to me.

On topic, Shoju and Jester pretty much said everything else about poly relationships for me, so I don't need to go on.