DOMA and Prop 8. Both History.

[kandrathe]

I cannot forgive him, cause I've given him far too many chances and tried to have a relationship with him even when I SHOULDN'T have, because it only ended up hurting the other people who I care about.

You don't need to repair the relationship, or have anything to do with that guy. You need to unburden yourself. It takes energy to love, and likewise, it takes energy to hate. Give yourself the gift of a peace of mind -- let go of this baggage. It's not yours unless you choose to carry it.

You aren't the only one who's ever been crapped on by a bad parent. It's not your fault, so move on. You don't even need to confront him. Just write a letter, without malice, that states the facts as you see them. That you believe he was wrong, and that in spite of it, you've forgiven him and buried the proverbial hatchet. Then, take the letter, and put it in a drawer until some day when he dies, then take it out and burn it.