DOMA and Prop 8. Both History.

[kandrathe]

So this seems like a very good compromise. Just go, the two of you, to city hall to sign a document, and then do the 'real' thing with friends and family in church with a 3000 dollar dress a 2000 dollar cake and 250 guests. Even in France things go like that.

Yet, I'll always be the one to ask 'Why?' Why do I need to tell the government what I'm doing in my personal life? If I want a Will, I'll need to make a will. If I want a more complicated contract, then lawyers do prenuptial agreements all the time. From the government's perspective, there is really one question; Are you both of legal age to consent? Which in this day and age is more of a sexual relations concern, rather than a " Are you willing to be committed to this person for the rest of your life" concern. In fact, we'd be better off with tribal customs where if you share a bed and a meal with your mate, you are married. Does the government ever get to say, "No, we're not allowing you to marry"? If not, then its a useless hoop jumping exercise implemented by control freaks and should be abolished. Everything else related to prohibitions of marriage is dominant culture social taboo, and has very little to do with governance. And, then, what prevents us from legalizing polygamy and why would we prevent it?

My second son was born on Lucia. There was a choir walking around the hospital (and maternity ward) to sing songs. Meanwhile we missed our oldest sons Lucia celebration at daycare.

Anyway, just book a plane ticket to Stockholm around that date and enjoy the festivities....the world is small.

I would love that, but I've got these children... :-) Traveling with children is awful. More-so, if you need to fly. Even worse if you need to fly internationally.