06-02-2005, 04:34 AM
I agree with Ducky on this:
And, to BrianHeichty (sorry to pick on you, but...):
God may well want us to have good sex in our marriages, but the only way you find out before it is too late whether you are sexually compatible is to have sex. A good marriage has many strong underpinnings - shared values, communication skills and a willingness to compromise being important ones. But marriages can and do founder if the sex is not good.
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But that is only one element that makes for a truly successful marriage. Sex, I mean. There are other things, more important things(like Love, for example), that need to be present before marriage can be considered.
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I have been with the same man now for 25 years. We both had numerous partners before we committed to each other. And I am convinced that it was the right thing to have done. We knew we were compatible on many fronts before we started out on that incredible adventure called parenting - which is the single most divisive one in any marriage.
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How old were you when you met your present husband? If you were in your early 20's, how did you know you were making the right choice? If you got married later, say your late 20's or early 30's, you probably had a better idea of what you were looking for. 25 years is a long time to commit to someone, and I applaud you for it. However, not all marriages are like yours, I'm sure. That is why I think that it is a great idea for people to date others in order to find that one person that they can spend the rest of their lives with. That is how people are supposed to determine whether or not they are compatible, not by having pre-marital sex. Call me old-fashioned, but if more people actually did that, we would definitely see fewer divorces. This is something that I believe very strongly in.
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And, to BrianHeichty (sorry to pick on you, but...):
God may well want us to have good sex in our marriages, but the only way you find out before it is too late whether you are sexually compatible is to have sex. A good marriage has many strong underpinnings - shared values, communication skills and a willingness to compromise being important ones. But marriages can and do founder if the sex is not good.
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But that is only one element that makes for a truly successful marriage. Sex, I mean. There are other things, more important things(like Love, for example), that need to be present before marriage can be considered.
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I have been with the same man now for 25 years. We both had numerous partners before we committed to each other. And I am convinced that it was the right thing to have done. We knew we were compatible on many fronts before we started out on that incredible adventure called parenting - which is the single most divisive one in any marriage.
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How old were you when you met your present husband? If you were in your early 20's, how did you know you were making the right choice? If you got married later, say your late 20's or early 30's, you probably had a better idea of what you were looking for. 25 years is a long time to commit to someone, and I applaud you for it. However, not all marriages are like yours, I'm sure. That is why I think that it is a great idea for people to date others in order to find that one person that they can spend the rest of their lives with. That is how people are supposed to determine whether or not they are compatible, not by having pre-marital sex. Call me old-fashioned, but if more people actually did that, we would definitely see fewer divorces. This is something that I believe very strongly in.
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