Gay Marriage

[JustAGuy]

I personally felt  when that word "faggot" was indiscrimmately thrown around. But of course, I realized that couldn't have been malicous. I guess being gay is not as stigmatized there as it here. One can see this, when you see people using "gay" and faggot" as insults towards people who don't care for the same sex. People don't want to be labled as such- to them it's really bad. Think... your average l33t dood in any online game. *Shudders* I think in America, most people who use these words don't have much clue on what it really means- considering it's directed quite randomly, not necassrily towards gay people. But perhaps it's a good thing people in the Netherlands don't care as much.

I believe the stigma stems from the method by which some homosexuals have sex. Some people find anal sex offensive, and maybe even laughable ("he's takin' it in the caboose!"). To call someone "gay" or "faggot" is to insinuate that they participate in anal sex, specifically, the receiving of anal sex.

In addition to the intercourse related insult, the thought of kissing another man, which is something I'd venture to say ALL gay couples do or have done at one point, is insinuated. That thought is either unbearable or hilarious to most heterosexual men. Which one they think it is dependent on their current opinion of homosexuality. Either way, calling someone "fag" or "gay" is both used as a joke and insult. I'm not saying it's right, or it's something I accept without question, I just understand why and how people use and say those things. I've even heard "gay" used as a comma...

Why would calling someone a man-kisser or caboose-receiver be insulting? Because it's painful and/or humiliating? Because it insinuates that the insulted is feminine and, by association, weak? "Gay" as an insult would then mean, "you're feminine, making you less than a man." Attacking manhood is a pretty good way to piss off a male schauvanist.

Honestly though, who wants to kiss a man? Not even women do! :)